Category: Kids

Our Kid’s First Solo International Flight

Our Kid’s First Solo International Flight

As you may have already noticed, my family gets pretty excited about travel. My husband and I traipsed all over the globe together in our dating and just-married days, and now we’re very comfortable dragging the kids around the world with us. We’ve already started to nudge our oldest out of the Family Travel Nest.

C did his first flights without us 3 years ago, right after his 10th birthday – across the country and back to visit his amazing and very patient grandparents. He did the same thing last summer, but on the back-to-us flight met us in a different city instead of our home airport.

This year, as a newly-minted teen, he flew out alone to visit his grandparents for a couple of weeks, and he then took a 5-hour international flight to meet us in Canada. He did all of this after having already spent 2+ weeks away from home at various summer camps.

And I’m happy to say he rocked it.

The Logistics

Here’s what we learned about this whole process:

Not all airlines allow this. Some have age cut-offs as high as 16 for minors traveling alone abroad. Some allow it, but only on non-stop flights. Some allow it, but you have to pay a fee to have the flight attendants monitor the situation from the departure gate at the origin airport through passport control and customs at the destination. Some allow it and make the flight attendant monitoring optional.

Air Canada’s rules are the less-strict variety, and so we booked our son on a flight with them.

Tickets and Other Documents

The ticket purchase was easily done online, which I appreciated (this is not always the case for minors traveling alone or minors traveling internationally).

They did tell us to have C travel with a notarized letter signed by us giving him permission to take the planned flight without us and detailing our contact information. I’m not sure anyone ever looked at said letter, but it made sense for him to have one since neither of us would be with him at check-in or customs.

Obviously he had to have his passport with him, so we got him one of those nerdy travel document purses with strict instructions to keep the strap around his neck no matter what.

Travel Day!

C’s flight was from O’Hare International to Vancouver International.

For whatever reason, Air Canada told me at booking that the “attendant fee” was included in the ticket price, and day-of they told us it was separate and we hadn’t paid it.

What this amounted to was that C had to go from security to his departure gate without his grandmother and through customs all alone, but it worked out fine. He reported that everyone was really nice (especially the TSA agent on the departure end who walked with him to his gate after he got anxious in security).

He said he was nervous in customs/passport control when they started asking him questions, but we could tell once he met us at international arrivals area that he was really proud of himself.

13 year-old boys are typically useless for reporting details about an experience, but from what I could gather C did have in-flight entertainment and snacks/drinks provided in coach class. He reported that there were loud children next to him and that he “watched Aquaman and How to Train your Dragon and ate a lot of Swedish Fish.” So there you go.

The Air Canada customer service reps at Vancouver International were super awesome. The “international arrivals” waiting area is very close to an abundance of food options, shops, and the public observation area where your toddler can shout incoherently at the airplanes.

How to Know When They’re Ready to Fly Solo

This post is NOT meant to be a “look how responsible my kid is” bragfest. C is plenty irresponsible in many areas, as evidenced by how much of the past academic year he spent in detention. But for some reason unbeknownst to us, he really levels up when it’s time to travel.

Different kids are good at different things, and they become ready to take on adult challenges at different times. That’s okay. I didn’t have the occasion to fly anywhere without my parents until I was 20, and I didn’t cross any international boarders alone until I was in residency. But the world is more mobile now than it was 10 years ago, and naturally more and more kids are flying to more places unaccompanied.

If you’re feeling like your kid is ready, you’re probably right. If they’ve asked to travel alone, they are more than ready. My advice is to start small, and keep it positive. Give your kid nothing but affirmative feedback about the whole process (do not project any of your fears or frustrations about this new experience or about flying in general onto them).

If your kid is younger or otherwise not quite ready to handle all the details of the airport shuffle, consider paying the extra dollars to have an attendant accompany them as much as possible on their travel day.

I think solo air travel is a very empowering milestone for kids. And honestly, if C can do it, your kid probably can too.

Letting kids do things that are just a little bit out of the family comfort zone is good for everyone. I think it’s especially good for us as parents.

Watching your child walk smiling and confident through an “international arrivals” gate is weird… but really cool. It makes you let go – just for a second – of the fact that this is the same child who claims to need help with things like finding his toothbrush and who usually doesn’t know what month it is.

And it gives you a momentary glimpse of the awesome travel possibilities in their future.

In Search of Cider, Pizza, and Poutine: Our Summer Travel Hacks

In Search of Cider, Pizza, and Poutine: Our Summer Travel Hacks

We were able to score the following flights for super cheap this summer (with first class tickets roundtrip on the PHX-SEA portion):

Image generated with Great Circle Mapper

In case you can’t see that image, our summer will include flights between FLG, PHX, ORD, YVR, and SEA – basically a giant triangle around the U.S. mainland with a little taste of British Columbia thrown in.

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Why We Don’t Let Our Teen Have a Cell Phone

Why We Don’t Let Our Teen Have a Cell Phone

The short answer is that he doesn’t need one. Let’s unpack that statement with some frequently asked questions that we get on this subject.

Are you super old and out of touch?

Depends who you ask, I guess.

We’re both at the upper end of the Millennial generation. We both have smartphones and various social media accounts. We both work with kids and teenagers in our careers. We use computers, phones, and other modern technology frequently for our jobs and have lots of random unnecessary electronic devices in our house. I don’t think we’re too far out of touch.

Aren’t you worried your teen will be isolated from his peers by not having a cell phone?

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Hacking Our Way to Hawaii (Round 2!)

Hacking Our Way to Hawaii (Round 2!)

We’ve been able to fly Hawaiian Airlines quite a few times – domestically and internationally, economy and first class – but it’s only in the last 12 months that we’ve flown HA with the kids.

The first trip to Hawaii with the kids was a wonderful week in Maui March of 2018, when Baby J was 9 months old. You can read here about the costs of the entire trip, as well as comparable costs if we had paid cash.

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Flying the Family-Friendly Skies: British Airways with Kids

Flying the Family-Friendly Skies: British Airways with Kids

If you’re wondering which airline has the best champagne selection or the highest thread count on their linens, this is not the post you’re looking for.

Our family travel style is very middle-of-the-road for international travelers. We fly in basic economy most of the time. Sure, we love a good airport lounge and we very occasionally spring for the lay-flat beds on nighttime flights. But we also are not “luxury” travelers. We don’t care about alcohol selection and don’t like to be checked on every 10 minutes. We do love getting from Point A to Point B without dreading our travel days, even if Point B is halfway across the world.

So here’s my review of British Air and our flights to and from Switzerland this year with our preteen C and our little toddler J.

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What Does it Cost to Take a Family to Switzerland?

What Does it Cost to Take a Family to Switzerland?

Joining Maui, Las Vegas, and Camano Island on our “2018 vacations we travel-hacked” list is Switzerland! This was my sixth time to Switzerland but my first time bringing kids along.

The Trip

Once again, we traveled at a peak time to a destination famous for being expensive. We were in Switzerland for 7 nights over the holidays, and also traveled overnight getting there and getting home – so we were away from home for 9 nights, 10 if you include the airport hotel the night before the trip.

We were mostly in the Berner Oberland, exploring Interlaken, Thun, Murren, and Grindelwald, with a brief visit to Zurich on our way home.

We had the obvious advantage of staying with friends for the majority of the trip, although this did not mean they footed the bill for all our food. In fact, we ate out almost every day and consumed as much local chocolate and cheese as we could get our hands on… which you’ll see reflected in our dining/grocery spending.

We also willingly took on the extra expense of premium economy and business class air travel, as well as three nice hotel stays to make our flight schedule more convenient. You could easily do Switzerland for less than this, particularly if you don’t mind flying in basic economy in the off season (and if you have the advantage of flying from closer than the west coast of the USA). You could also do this trip for a heck of a lot more.

Below is the cost breakdown for our trip, and as such the last of our spending for 2018. This is for a family of 4 during the ever-popular travel time of Christmas break.

(You can also check out our review of flying British Air with the munchkins and our tips for air travel with infants.) 

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Second-Hand Holidays: Why Our Kids Aren’t Getting New Stuff for Christmas

Second-Hand Holidays: Why Our Kids Aren’t Getting New Stuff for Christmas

There’s something about the prospect of getting new stuff that causes kids to go a little nuts around the holiday season. I’ve heard “You know what I want for Christmas…?!” approximately a thousand times since Halloween. And the answer to that question is not a single, simple item. Heavens, no. Long gone are the days when kids sent a hand-written letter to Santa asking for a jump rope. Kids are now making online “Christmas wish lists” on par with wedding registries, and plenty of parents are boldly crowdsourcing holiday shopping money “for the kids!”

We’re kind of over it.

Here are five reasons why my husband and I – despite loving the holiday season and having plenty of money available to spend on our little angles –  have all but nixed Christmas presents in our household:

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Our Adoption Announcement Letter

Our Adoption Announcement Letter

I wrote this almost four years ago, when we found out that we were likely to be adopting C from foster care. You can see all of my posts about foster care and adoption here

We completed a second adoption from foster care a few months ago  – and November is National Adoption month! – so it seemed like a good time to share this publicly. We didn’t include any photos in that original letter, but I have included some here just for fun.

If you are working on your own adoption announcement, feel free to use any of this that applies to you

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Hitting the Trail: 10 Tips for Endurance Racing as a Busy Parent

Hitting the Trail: 10 Tips for Endurance Racing as a Busy Parent

Any parent will be happy to explain to you at length that everything gets more complicated after you add kids to your life. This includes your fitness regimen. But instead of letting that fall by the wayside – and letting your physical, mental, and emotional health suffer as a result – it’s best to get back on that horse as quickly as you can.

For us, that looked like getting back out on the trails asap after Baby J arrived last year. He did his first hike with us around 4 weeks old.

Fast forward to right now: my husband and I just finished a respectably difficult trail race in the San Juan Mountains, with our kids cheering us on at the finish line. This was the third time we’ve done this race together and the second time since we’ve been parents.

me and my husband on a high alpine pass
The summit of the race – at over 13,100 feet!

You might be thinking: “That seems kinda cool but…Nah. They seem a little bit crazy, and I’m not even sure they have real jobs. Plus running just comes easily for some people. I might have done something like that before I had kids, but not now because I’m way too busy…”

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